How long does your mother get rid of her paper stuff? Days? Weeks? Years? Well, regardless of how long, convince her not to keep what can be thrown away. Tell her it’s about time to change. But, how are you going to do that when all she thinks is that all those papers are important?
Here are several things you should tell her and some explanations you can use. Promise, the points below won’t let you down.
If you take a look at all those mails, perhaps they’re just expired coupons, old grocery catalogs, random notes, past utility bills, receipts, old love letters, and personal grocery lists. Now, do you think she still needs those utility bills when they have already been paid? Do you think she can still scan and recheck those faded receipts? Do you think she can claim those expired coupons? Maybe, not. Clearly, all those papers are useless. So, ask your mom, ‘Is there any point of keeping them?’
Some of those mails may have sentimental value for her. Honestly, that could be very challenging to deal with. However, not all of them are important, thus advise her to keep only her favorites. If she reasons that somebody worked hard on them, tell her that the paper has already served its purpose well and that it’s about time to let it go. Remember that memories are not created in physical things. Rather, they’re in the mind.
It is reasonable that your mother is keeping old love letters, especially if it came from somebody who means so much to her like your father. But that doesn’t imply she should keep them in one box for decades. With the help of digital scanners, clutter should not be an issue. Scan and save these files onto a flash drive or maybe store them on online storage areas. Take pictures and save them on your mom’s smartphone or upload them to her social media account. The process shouldn’t cause her to hurt.
This part is quite obvious. If your mother keeps letters that reminds her of bad memories, she’d only feel depressed. Of course, you don’t want to see her go over those mails again and again just to look back on certain days and sob. That is not what you want her to feel, right? It’s okay to hide a few things, especially if your mom has become attached to them. Then again, the goal is to clean up and save space.
Yes, tidying up and sorting those mails can be a difficult and daunting task, especially if your mom is used to seeing them in one corner. But rather than letting those papers build up, advise her to take baby steps by getting rid of at least one mail a day. At first, it may seem tough, but as she progresses, she’ll realize it isn’t that hard at all.
Do you want a checklist which will help you to take action as you start getting rid of all papers?